Interesting Article…

October 4, 2007 at 11:34 pm (Uncategorized)

http://blogs.news.com.au/bossy/index.php/news/comments/my_wife_is_having_an_o…

What do you think about online affairs?

Do you think there is a future in these relationships?

Or do people just get disappointed when they finally do meet?

Love Me xxxxxxxx

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17 Comments

  1. jackaloopa said,

    this sort of links up with your previous post about “secrecy, relationships…”…i have personally dealt with this issue…and i know there is a lot of debate as to whether these types of activities constitute “cheating/infidelity”…the best answer i found was – if a person is engaging in an activity that he/she is hiding from their partner it’s a form of infidelity…i think i’m only responding to your first question and the article you posted…

  2. sharon said,

    i think it is just a distraction from reality. most people don’t wanna deal with truth and honesty so they create an illusion that facilitates as a distraction that acts as an emotion that makes one feel all emotive! – i know its a mouth full and my comma key isnt working! Love

  3. Anonymous said,

    Hi, Fluffybutt
    I would like to commend you on your prolific writings which are inspiring. In responce to your question on-line relationships can be quite achieved, desired and to satisfy a requirment in ones condition to gain happiness that my help one embrace their real-time relationships. What’s wrong with that. Let’s face it a morjority of on-line relationships are just that. I’m discoverying that if you can learn to communicate your fellings even through superficially means that it may help you grasp your and others humanity.

  4. Anonymous said,

    I think they’re dangerous to marriages.

  5. R.A.D. Stainforth said,

    Online affairs can lead to very large phone bills.

  6. April said,

    It seems to me that the problem for this particular couple is that instead of using a little online flirting for escape with a little ‘e’..she’s using this as an Escape (Big E!) from her life. As a previous response said, if you feel the need to hide it..then you probably shouldn’t be doing it!

  7. Anonymous said,

    I let my husband join Classmates as he had showed an interest in it. Well I checked into his account after a couple of months and saw that he was corresponding to a woman weekly, on the weekends Saturday and Sunday. This is out of character for him to be on the computer but once a month. He never told me about it, which raised a red flag for me. I told him that hurt my feelings and I didn’t mind him corresponding with a classmate occasionally but not every weekend, both days.(he didn’t even know her) He said it doesn’t mean anything. I told him it could lead into something. He said I don’t have any friends to correspond with on here. I told him if it was a man I wouldn’t have any problems with the amount of correspondence going on, but with a woman, that often, yes! Things are back to normal here again, he only gets on once a month. Oh yea, in reading their correspondence, I could see some of the same language he used when corresponding with me when we were courting. I even said you use to call me that. I believe that online correspondence like I read in that article can definitely lead to an affair.

  8. Anonymous said,

    I think online relationships are fine, some of the best friendships and partnerships have started online or through agencies.
    However if you’re a married person, then it can be a dangerous game. It’s too easy to allow yourself to get attached to someone and keep telling yourself ‘its ok, it’s only a bit of online fun’. But before you know it…you’ve grown feelings that can potentially drown out feeling’s you had for your ‘real life’ partner.
    Thing’s like this can creep up on you before you can say…’you got mail’
    Take care

  9. Bart said,

    By “online affairs” I assume you mean that soomeone is cheating and its not just online dating. Thats exactly why I’m divorced, an online friendship went too far, not sure if it ever went all the way but the intent was there, of course if you’re married to a lier and a cheater they’ll find a way to cheat, its not about having a computer or not, if not online then it would be a neighbor, someone in a bar, etc. Once someone tells someone else they love them, fantasy or not, the relationship is over, time to get a good lawyer and get out !

  10. Anonymous said,

    A significantly bigger question is do you stay with your partner if he is having one? What if it isn’t just one but several?

  11. Anonymous said,

    No affairs for me, just friends. Affairs too scary. Cheating if you are married. Bad JuJu! Tell my wife about everyone I talk to just to stay on the safe side. Nothing to hide. Clear conscious. Honesty is best medicine.
    Having great affair with my wife though. 🙂

  12. Truculent Trencherman™ said,

    Well I have had dates: with a stoner girl, a woman in a leprechaun suit, and a woman with her dead husband in the basement as a result of internet dating. But it is also how I met Silvia. I would never consider internet cheating. And I would never advise anyone to try it. There are too many strange horror stories that come true as a result.

  13. Mitchell L said,

    Yes it is OK i am LOOKING TOO Mitch

  14. Anonymous said,

    I’m of the opinion also that if the need to hide it is present then something IS wrong, which is also an indication that something fundamental is missing from the “real” relationship. This is possible to overcome…but are both parties willing?
    As to on-line relationships, I’m open minded enough to believe anything is possible, but only if you are prepared to take all the necessary steps, but it’s not something I personally am seeking. getting all emotional about people you’ve never actually met is somehow surreal, and should be taken “with a grain of salt.”

  15. Bellemai said,

    Gotta agree: if you don’t want your s.o. to know, then it’s something you shouldn’t be doing.

  16. JD said,

    Online affairs – Dangerous to your health.
    Is there a future in it ? Yeah there is always a future in it,good and bad,can’t spend life sitting in a swivvel chairs though can ya.
    Online can open up a better communication between people,so if they do meet in the big bad world at least they already may have something in common,if however they expected a prince charming on a white horse to sweep them off their feet they may be a bit dissapointed.
    online a world of issues can be left behind the keypad.
    A dram can last a short while reality is forever.
    Cool post ,I need to kills ome brain cells now.
    Rock on Beautiful fluffy

  17. Anonymous said,

    I was married for 22 years and then I met someone online that has made a difference in my life. He was married for 36 years when I met him and he was very unhappy as well. We’ve been together for over 3 years now. We live in seperate places but one day that might change. Being in such long relationships make it hard too take that final committment step such as getting married OR living together. Who knows what may happen? Love your profile. Pretty picture of you also.

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